One of the biggest secrets to feeling happy is not paying so much attention to yourself.  The more attention you give yourself, the less happy you feel.  You will never be good enough, beautiful enough, or strong enough.  If all you see are your problems, your hopes, your worries, or your gains, you end up feeling miserable.

People who live their lives talking about themselves never improve their lives and do not understand why.  They think that if others feel sorry for them that will get them out of the hole and, on the contrary, the seeking of so much attention sinks them even more.  What you think and talk about, you attract.

There is an interesting theory that may explain this.  There are basically 2 impulses in the Universe: contraction and relaxation.  Everything in this world is constantly becoming more or less dense, and the ultimate denseness is a black hole, sucking in all the light and providing nothing.  Every human being’s consciousness is always  moving between the contraction and disintegration of the ego.  Self-centered motivations are what drive us in lots of our work and artistic creations, but these also provide us with lots of stress, fear, and illness.  Altruistic motivations surround us with love and peace.

Contraction provides the self-centered pleasure of receiving love; recognition and appreciation.  Relaxation provides the altruistic pleasure of giving love; in our work and in life.  Both provide pleasure, but one is temporary and the other is permanent soul pleasure.  Personal attention feels good in the moment, but once it disappears and the ego feels unattended, sadness creeps in.

So, if you are feeling depressed at some point, follow these steps to loosen up your ego.

• It is OK to feel down at times.  If you are ambitious, this is normal and healthy.  These are moments of truth when you prove you can deal with anything and still succeed.
• Forgive yourself.  If you messed up, focus on the next move, instead of dwelling on the past.  Everyone makes mistakes; it is the only way to learn the right way.
• Do not take things personally.  People act and react in response to their moment of living, not because of you.  You  cannot control how they feel and act, but you can separate yourself from the situation and respond with control.  Stop blaming and see the bright side of the situation.
• Be realistic.  Do not expect people to change.  Accept and love them as they are.  Do not allow this to make you unhappy because a specific action does not define a person.
• Recognize when things are out of your control.  There are situations you have to cope with and others you can solve.  Accept it.  What you resist, persists.
• Care for what you do.  Find joy in your work.  Is all about choosing how to view things.  You either focus on hating your boss or focus on how much your work helps in a certain area.
• Choose demanding exercise.  Something that makes you stop thinking to just concentrate on it; like a forced meditation.  Yoga is a good example.
• Take care of your health.  A constant feeling of sadness or lack may mean you need to make some changes to your health habits.  Select healthy balanced food to keep you energized.  Get the sleep you need, at least 7 hours.  Talk to a doctor and try to look for natural medications.  Hormones imbalance is a great catalyst of depression, so visit a bioidentical hormone doctor to identify more natural ways to balance you organism and keep it working for you.
• Focus on others.  This doesn’t mean you neglect yourself; on the contrary, you are blessed more by giving yourself to others.  Make your friends happy. Be a loyal and reliable colleague just because you care.  Do something for someone less fortunate, give money and time.  Positive and negative energy are universal, we all share it and the Universe delivers it to us according to our feelings and thoughts.  If you act out of love, you command the Universe to give you more of it in all its forms; and it works the same the other way around.

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We may say a person cannot BE happy, but can FEEL happy.  What is it that makes you feel happy? A great job? Lots of money in the bank? A fulfilling relationship?

Normally, when you get what you want, you feel happy, but immediately lose that feeling when that thing you wanted disappears; and it eventually will, as life is change and most probably, what you enjoy today will not be there tomorrow.

So, how would you feel if you knew you don’t need anything to feel happy all the time?  How would you feel if you discovered a way to feel happy even after losing what you cherish the most right now?

Believe it… it is possible!  There is a way to feel at peace and content regardless of your external situations.  The secret is to bring happiness into your daily life activities instead of trying to extract it from these, and you can learn to do this easily!

Follow these 5 tips and stop pulling the world’s strings up and down to make yourself happy.

1.    Choose Joy.
We humans tend to focus on the negative instead of the positive.  Our minds give more importance to the negative aspects.  If you don’t believe it, think about this: a person is complimented six times in a day and criticized one, what does this person think about the most in the following days? Yes, the negative.  And most people are like this because it is a survival mechanism. To change this, make it a habit to feel the positive things in your life; the smile of your child, the taste of food, the melody of a song you love, kind words from others towards you.  Take your time to savor these moments and think about them for 30 second periods during the day.  Remember to wear a smile on your face all the time.

2.    Trust the Universe.
Happy people believe the Universe is friendly.  If things go wrong, they try to identify the lesson and gift in the situation instead of feeling victims.  So,     when something not so good comes along, reflect on it and ask: What is the     higher purpose behind this happening?

3.    Surrender to Love.
Make it a habit to focus your life on love.  Love for your family, friends, and strangers.  Feel how everyone is in your same situation and bless them while on a traffic jam, on line at the bank or supermarket or just when walking next to them.  Just by wishing others good you will boost it in your life.

4.    Take care of your body.
Your brain is in charge of producing the endorphins, serotonin, oxytocin and     dopamine which are essential natural chemicals that thrust happiness into     your     system.  Your eating, exercising, resting and even, expression habits     greatly influence the way these chemicals spread through your body.  So,     again, smile all you can to get the ball rolling inside you and, if you feel kind     of imbalanced somehow, get some help, there are excellent natural balancing procedures like the bioidentical hormone replacement therapy, check it out!

5.    Choose Happy People.
The energies of other people affect us directly, so select your friends and     acquaintances well.  Get close to people who are happiness magnets and     keep your distance with people who like to be doomed.  Meet regularly with     friends who cheer you up and make you have great hope.

Feeling happy all the time is not difficult, you just have to understand what your life is all about and see it as the blessing it is in itself.  How everything that happens, good or bad, has a greater motive of wellness for you and the whole Universe and if you catch that opportunity to grow, happiness and bliss will fill your life every single day of your existence, no matter what.

If you liked this article, tell all your friends about it. They’ll thank you for it. If you have a blog or website, you can link to it or even post it to your own site (don’t forget to mention our Bio-Identical Hormone Therapy blog as the original source).